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The Yorkton & Area Partnership Against Violence is a committee of local organizations devoted to the elimination of violence in our society. Over the months of November and December, Yorkton This Week will print a series of six articles submitted by the partnership exposing six different forms of violence. This is the fifth article.

She is a mother, a grandmother, a sister, someone's child. He is a father, a grandfather, a brother, someone's child. One thing they have in common - they can fall victim of domestic abuse.

Domestic Abuse refers to abuse of a person by another person with whom the victim is living, has lived, or with whom a significant relationship exists. Abusive behaviour cuts across the racial, ethnic, educational and socioeconomic boundaries. (www.medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com)

Has your partner done any of these things?

Continually criticize you, calling you names, shouting at you

Threaten to kidnap the children if you leave

Lock you out of the house

Threaten or hurt you with a weapon

Hit, choke, punch, kick or slap you

Isolate you from family, friends, work and community support

Play mind games

Refuse to help you when you are sick or injured

Control where you go, what you do and who you are with

These are typical signs of abuse. You are the only one who can decide how much is too much.

Types of Domestic Violence

Emotional - consists of actions, statements, gestures, or behaviours, which attack one's self- esteem and sense of self-worth. Emotional abuse is as real as physical or sexual abuse.

Physical - the use of physical force or threatening to use physical force towards yourself of someone you care about.

Sexual - being forced to engage in any sexual act or behaviour against your will.

Economical - being in control of all monetary actions

SPOTTING THE SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (http://domesticviolencequotes.com/signs-of-domestic-violence)

Domestic violence is a difficult subject to speak with someone about, and it is hard to confirm without serious investigation and confrontation. While there are some signs that are hard to miss, some can be difficult to spot, and may actually be hidden if the victim is trying to keep it a secret. So what can you do? By looking carefully for signs of domestic violence, you can sometimes determine if it is occurring, and take steps to see that the pattern doesn't continue.

Physical Signs of Domestic Violence

If there is physical abuse occurring, then chances are that there are going to be some kind of markings and bruises. The trouble is, sometimes these marks can be covered up, or in an area that cannot normally be seen. If you notice that the victim is going out in public less, this can be an indication of physical abuse. If you notice that they begin speaking more frequently about how clumsy they are, or come up with harebrained and elaborate stories about how they got the injury, then this can also be an indicator of abuse.

Verbal and Behavioural Signs of Domestic Violence

Watch out for comments that appear to be geared toward low self-esteem about life or their current relationship, especially if it is a new and sudden occurrence. Many women and men who are in an abusive relationship tend to make negative comments, pretending their making a joke, or saying it in a casual way to avoid the risk of suspicion from others who note this comments.

Has the potential victim gone from having a pleasant and happy demeanor, to someone more somber and fearful? If someone is constantly being mistreated and abused, this is going to get to them eventually and effect their personality.

If you have your suspicions about what's going on, go with a close friend of the victim and try to confirm any suspicions you may have. It can be a very difficult thing to do, but it needs to be done and can save someone's life.

THE CYCLE OF ABUSE

Domestic violence is rarely a one-time incident. It usually takes place as part of a cycle that includes the following stages. Without some form of intervention, the cycle usually repeats itself with the violent episodes escalating in frequency and intensity. (www.novavita.org)

For more information on Domestic Violence and resources contact

Melinda Davis
Shelwin House Outreach Worker
(306) 782-5181
[email protected]

Cheryl Tiller
Parkland Victims Services Inc
(306) 786-2406
[email protected]


Remember:

Every person is responsible for their own behaviour no matter what is influencing them.

Abuse is not your fault.

No One Deserves To Be Abused

I Got Flowers Today
I got flowers today.
It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night.
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said.
Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today.
It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn't believe that it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today.
And it wasn't Mother's Day or any special day.
Last night he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today.
Today was a special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered
Enough courage and strength to leave him.
I would not have gotten flowers today


by Paulette Kelly